Food and money are emotionally electric.
Love it or hate it, you will have a relationship with each of these things — every day — for the rest of your life.
There is no “opt-out” option. You can’t click “unsubscribe.”
You have to figure out how to interface with food and finances in order to simply survive.
As it turns out, many peoples’ connections and choices with these two forms of emotional currency is seldom straight forward. Money represents and is wrapped up in many things. Status. Security. Safety. Scarcity. The impact and power of money in your life is inescapable. It is ever present. But, it needn’t consume you. You can villainize it or place it on a pedestal. It can distract. Detract. Add.
You can love it, hate it, lie about it. Whatever the case may be, you have to interact with it on some level each and every day.
When I work with patients who struggle with eating disorders such as Anorexia and Bulimia Nervoa, I frequently have the conversation that “abstinence only” recovery akin to what may be recommended for someone with an alcohol addition is-for better or worse- not an option. As humans we need to have a relationship with the currency of food multiple times a day every day for the duration of our life. When your relationship with a particular medium is fraught, it can be incredibly challenging to navigate your day-to-day life.
In some ways, the same rules apply to money. You can’t not deal with it.
This doesn’t stop many people from trying.
People avoid discussing money. Frequently. For reasons simple and complex.
“If we don’t talk about it, we can’t fight about it.”
Many people bury their heads in the sand, not wanting to look at the picture of their current financial reality. Individuals employ the defense of denial when there is something uncomfortable they need distance from in their hearts and heads.
People may avoid planning for their financial future out of fear. Facing money music with chorus and verse holding questions such as “What is next?” and “What do I need to do to prepare?” may require acknowledgment of impending inevitable change. Change can be terrifying. Some people feel insecure and unskilled in the schools of saving or investing. Lack of competence zaps confidence. Someone sits idle instead. Seemingly safe, this could constitute costly inaction.
The light, where is it? Straight ahead.
Time sitting at the table needn’t be stressful. Setting the stage for a strong financial future is squarely within one’s grasp. The key: don’t white knuckle through the work alone. Trained mental health and financial services professionals can come alongside you to help you secure what you ultimately crave: freedom and health.
You can run from a problematic relationship with food or money, but you can’t hide.
If you don’t eat, you may faint. If you don’t figure out your finances, you may fold.
Don’t run the risk. Don’t run alone.